Wednesday, April 14, 2021

Everybody Fights: So Why Not Get Better at It? by Kim Holderness, Penn Holderness


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My wife drives me crazy sometimes. My husband should already know what I need. Is our marriage in trouble if we fight all the time? Is it possible to learn how to fight?

For the last several years, Penn and Kim Holderness have done the hard maintenance and the research. With the help of their marriage coach Dr. Christopher Edmonston, they break down their biggest (and in some cases, funniest) fights. How did a question about chicken wings turn into a bra fight (no, not a bar fight; a bra fight)? How did a roll of toilet paper lead to tears, resentment, and a stint in the guest bedroom?

With their trademark sense of humor and complete vulnerability, Penn and Kim share their ten most common Fight Fails and how to combat them. Throughout the book, they offer scripts for how to start, continue, and wrap up hard conversations. Couples will emerge equipped to engage and understand, not do battle—and maybe laugh a little more along the way.

In Everybody Fights, couples will learn how to

  • conjure the magic of metacommunication
  • break free of secret contracts
  • banish the three Ds—distraction, denial, and delay
  • carry their own individual baggage while helping each other deal with theirs
Penn and Kim metacommunication want people to know they’re not alone. Marriage is messy. Marriage is work. But marriage is worth it. Fight for it.

My Thoughts:
Everybody Fights is a great book on marriage. Kim and Penn write a solid book on marriage. They are honest in the struggles of marriage, finances, listening, and so many more topics. This book is a great read as you read what marriage is really like. This is an honest look at marriage and the things that are good, hard and amazing about marriage. 

Kim and Penn don't claim to experts on the topic, but they give an honest look of what it was like to go through marriage counseling and the tips that worked for them. They give the reader a first look into their fights, so the reader doesn't feel alone. 

If you are married, this is a great read for your relationship. This book would be a great read in different seasons of marriage as well. I highly recommend it and can't recommend this book enough. Pick up a copy today, it might save your marriage! 

1 comment:

Sara Strand said...

I really enjoyed this one quite a bit! Thank you for being on this tour! Sara @ TLC Book Tours