Wednesday, April 14, 2021

Everybody Fights: So Why Not Get Better at It? by Kim Holderness, Penn Holderness


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My wife drives me crazy sometimes. My husband should already know what I need. Is our marriage in trouble if we fight all the time? Is it possible to learn how to fight?

For the last several years, Penn and Kim Holderness have done the hard maintenance and the research. With the help of their marriage coach Dr. Christopher Edmonston, they break down their biggest (and in some cases, funniest) fights. How did a question about chicken wings turn into a bra fight (no, not a bar fight; a bra fight)? How did a roll of toilet paper lead to tears, resentment, and a stint in the guest bedroom?

With their trademark sense of humor and complete vulnerability, Penn and Kim share their ten most common Fight Fails and how to combat them. Throughout the book, they offer scripts for how to start, continue, and wrap up hard conversations. Couples will emerge equipped to engage and understand, not do battle—and maybe laugh a little more along the way.

In Everybody Fights, couples will learn how to

  • conjure the magic of metacommunication
  • break free of secret contracts
  • banish the three Ds—distraction, denial, and delay
  • carry their own individual baggage while helping each other deal with theirs
Penn and Kim metacommunication want people to know they’re not alone. Marriage is messy. Marriage is work. But marriage is worth it. Fight for it.

My Thoughts:
Everybody Fights is a great book on marriage. Kim and Penn write a solid book on marriage. They are honest in the struggles of marriage, finances, listening, and so many more topics. This book is a great read as you read what marriage is really like. This is an honest look at marriage and the things that are good, hard and amazing about marriage. 

Kim and Penn don't claim to experts on the topic, but they give an honest look of what it was like to go through marriage counseling and the tips that worked for them. They give the reader a first look into their fights, so the reader doesn't feel alone. 

If you are married, this is a great read for your relationship. This book would be a great read in different seasons of marriage as well. I highly recommend it and can't recommend this book enough. Pick up a copy today, it might save your marriage! 

Friday, April 9, 2021

No Pain, No Gaines: The Good Stuff Doesn't Come Easy by Chip Gaine


No Pain, No Gaines: The Good Stuff Doesn't Come Easy


Chip Gaines likes to sweat. 

That’s been true ever since he was a little pint-sized hustler selling candy and Capri Suns down at the public tennis courts in northeast Texas. You’ve probably seen him sweat on his television show, Fixer Upper. Deep in his bones he has always known that hard work yields great results, even when there’s little observable evidence of it. On the cusp of launching into what might be the hardest work he and his wife, Joanna, have ever done—building a network—Chip realized that none of it would be possible without his network of people.

Call it a network, a community, a home team. We’ve all got one. Today it might be made up of your family, your neighbors, the people you work with. But if you want a network that will pull you into a life of meaning, a life of joy and connection, you need to be intentional about choosing the people in it. People who are enlivened and electrified by the power of living according to their purpose, who are always in pursuit of lifelong learning, and who have a sincere belief that relationships are more than transactions. Chip Gaines has been building that kind of network his whole life, and he can tell you, it doesn’t come easy.

To say it requires sweat equity would be an understatement. It requires faith in people. It requires hope. And it requires a willingness to grow even when it hurts. From hard-won lessons and personal stories from Chip, No Pain, No Gaines is a by-the-bootstraps manual for building a network you can count on.

My Thoughts:

This memoir written by Chip Gaines is one that will inspire and motivate you. I don't watch Fixer Upper, the television show by Chip and Joanna, but I do love home renovations and feeling inspired. This book is about hard work and how it pays off. This book is about how if you take control of your life, and live it the fullest. You are the only one who can make your life count. 

I really loved this book! It's a simple message of authenticity and living out your dreams. You are the only person who can make it happen. Chip adds humor and writes the way he sounds. It felt like I was sitting at a coffee shop with him, as I was reading this book. It's a very transparent and conversational read for the reader. I highly recommend reading this book! It's a great read! 

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