Wednesday, June 24, 2015

A Friend in Me

A Friend in Me
A Friend in Me (David C. Cook, June 2015)
Young women long for relational connection with women further ahead of them on the journey. Yet, without realizing it, many of us tend to distance ourselves from those in younger generations.
Can we really have close relationships with women who have different thoughts on church, different experiences with family, and different ways of talking about God? Where do we start?
In A Friend in Me, Pam Lau shows you how to be a safe place for the younger women in your life. She offers five patterns women need to internalize and practice for initiating relationships and talking about issues such as faith, forgiveness, sexuality, and vocation. Most significantly, she reminds you that there doesn’t need to be a divide between generations of women. Together, we can have a global impact—and experience a deeper faith than we’ve ever known.
My review:
Pamela's intentions for this book is help connect younger women, those in their twenties and thirties and to older women to help foster mentor relationship through difficult life challenges. I can appreciate the approach and wisdom this book has to offer "In a Friend in Me."  However, there were many things about this book that disappointed me and I did not agree with. I was disappointed with the approach in chapter two where I felt that the author was manipulative in a situation where she borderline made someone open up to her who may have felt uncomfortable (pg 44). However, the person did open up and maybe that was the push the individual needed, but it seemed manipulative to say " If you can't tell me the truth, we can't be close friends."  On the next page she goes on to say our tone can make or break a conversation, which is an interesting juxtapose. 
Aside from this, I found most of her book to give advice on suffering, how to comfort one another, encourage each other, have a deep understanding of each other, how building relationships can take time, compassion and is often difficult along with financial understanding. The book was more about giving knowledge and advice, which I found to be helpful as a twenty something.  Overall, this book has some great conversations and discussion pieces between young women and older women who want to foster deeper relationships. I think it has a lot of sound advice and could be beneficial for someone who is looking for a mentor relationship. 
Thank you to David C. Cook for providing me this review copy. I was not compensated for a positive review.  

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